Nicole, on Love

“Love is very simple; as long as you find the right person.”

We finally found a place to sit. We ordered our drinks and settled into Blujazz.

As the resident jazz band struck up its set, I struck with my first question, “So what is being in love?”

In her typical fashion of casualness, Nicole replied, “Something easy, no drama…everything’s in the open, no need to fight,” she pauses as if to play this out in her head. “But also not so easy…there needs to be balance. You want somebody too much, someone is going to take someone for granted.”

Just like that, Nicole was sharing her casual philosophy. This easy wisdom was what really made me sit up to contemplate what Nicole shared.

“When you wake up in the morning, both of you have morning breath, but you both still  just wanna kiss…yah…just being yourself…whatever you wanna say.” If I hadn’t known better, I would have thought she was drunk. But Nicole continued to share through streams of thoughts. On love. The drinks arrived. We sip our drinks.

“…So freaking hard to find a freaking normal guy!” she exclaims and laughs at herself. But she straightens up and adds, “Love is very simple; as long as you find the right person.”

I ventured further and asked if she deserves this kind of romantic love that she speaks of. Nicole takes a few more gulps from her beer. “Everybody deserves that. Everybody deserves to be happy.”

Our conversation takes twists and turns, including Nicole claiming she is probably too eccentric for a guy to handle. But as we came to the end of this conversation topic, I asked if she was happy being single at the moment. Nicole said she was happy being single, being able to do the things she wants to.

“I used to need affirmation from my lover. But now, what the hell do I need his stamp of approval? If I want to dig a hole, I’ll just do it la! Rely on that guy, and the guy fucks up, then you’re screwed.”

“I guess you  should be with someone who wants you to be the best  you can be.”

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